Wedding Etiquette Wednesday - Wedding Day Toasts

 

Can you believe he said that?!

 

Who wouldn't be mortified if that was the best man toast at their wedding? Wedding toasts are a cherished tradition, but a bad toast can be bad news for any wedding! Make sure you are aware of some of these do's and don'ts , or rather the who, what, when and how of wedding toasts.

• Who?

- gives a toast: Traditionally, the best man starts off with the first toast followed by both father's who welcome the guests. Lastly is the maid/matron of honor toast. It is okay to have other members of the wedding party toast, however, beware as too many speeches can bore your guests. 

• What?

- to drink: the customary toasting beverage is champagne. If you are not a fan  of the dry-super bubbles, try a dessert wine instead like a moscato d'asti. Not an alcohol drinker? Not a problem, try a sparkling cider like Martinelli's.

 

- to say: A short story or funny anecdote is okay. The best speeches I have heard are the ones that have a little bit of humor, followed by some sentiment, followed by some advice and congratulations for the newlyweds.

 

- not to say: if the couple has broken up in the past, do not bring it up during the wedding. It's just rude! Do not say "we were not sure you would ever get married" to a new bride or groom. And leave out the memories best left forgotten. We've all had those memories that should not be shared with everyone a bride or groom knows. If you aren't sure that they will appreciate it, leave it out. Just remember, this is a time for happy memories, don't bring the couple down.

• How?

- long should it be: SHORT AND SWEET. The most important thing is to keep your speech heartfelt. Keeping the speech to an average of 3-5 minutes max is ideal because if it is less, it might seem as though you were not prepared but if it is longer, people will stop listening. Let's face it, no one wants to listen to a 10 minute speech, there is dancing and dinner to be had.

 

These tips are important for both the hosts and attendants. For toaster's, they will ensure you do not embarrass yourself or offend the couple. For the couple, this will ensure all can participate in the toast and that your guests don't fall asleep...happy toasting!